Feeling Attractive Is Important – Not Only On The Outside
No, I am not talking about dieting, exercising, losing belly fat, or doing anything to drastically change your outward appearance. Feeling attractive, whether after having a baby, or due to a different factor is all in your mind.
For me, attractiveness comes from within and oozes out. If you are confident and attractive on the inside, you don’t need to prove it by wearing certain clothes, or putting on make-up.
Trust me, it will show.
If you are a mom, especially a first time mom like me, you have probably spent a great deal of time since giving birth wearing sweatpants and a t-shirt.
I became a first time mom in June 2015. Since then, my weight has gone up and down several times.
At first I was sad and blamed it on the fact that I couldn’t breastfeed.
All moms shed weight when they breastfeed don’t they? Oh, woe is me!
Before having my son, you would usually find me wearing a dress and heels or ballerinas, each strand of hair perfectly in place, and wearing light makeup.
Now I take shorter showers (and maybe not as often). Ugh! Hair not done. Make-up? What is that?
Over the past few weeks, I have wondered what I can do for myself to start feeling attractive again.
I love learning and sharing, so here are my tips to help you get to the point of feeling attractive again, and not only on the outside!
1. Love Thyself And Therefore Thy Body
It is important for you to embrace and love your not new, but different body. Try to see your body as better and not worse.
Your body changed in order for you to create the miracle that is your baby. Celebrate that! 🙂
It took 9 months for your body to change so give yourself time to get your body back to a way that will make you feel satisfied about it. Until then, love your body the way it is.
2. Do Something That Makes You Feel Good
Dance, sing, laugh, spend time with friends. Get a mani/pedi done, or a mud bath.
Wait what? Mud bath? Yes! Mud baths can help ease aches and muscle pains whilst having a soothing effect on the skin.
Anything that makes you feel good will boost your confidence. You know what I like to do?
I like – no scratch that, I LOVE to dance. Whenever I dance I feel confident. Happy.
Go ahead and dance in front of the mirror, make faces. It is fun and you will end up feeling good about yourself.
3. Talk To Your Husband/Partner
Your partner might have heard you expressing your discomforts and worries about not feeling like yourself.
So what can your partner help you do about it? I say instead of letting your husband/partner guess, just tell him (or her).
It saves time. Some men get it quicker than others. Be straightforward.
Have a date night, or a stay indoors. Why not ask him for a massage?
Alone time with your partner is important, so get him to take the hint. (*wink wink*)
4. Buy Something Sexy
You may not end up wearing it anytime soon but get it all the same.
A nice dress, a top, lingerie. Anything that makes you think “wow, I’m hot!” without actually saying it aloud.Well, some of you might.
5. The Inner Makeover
This is the one I most highly recommend.
Stop the negative self-talk. Replace negative thoughts and words such as disgusting, fat or ugly with beautiful, attractive, loving, worthy, loyal, trustworthy.
Make it a daily habit to speak positive affirmations to yourself.
Have you heard the saying “true beauty comes from within?”
Now more than ever you know it’s true isn’t it? Pretty isn’t a look, it’s a feeling.'Beauty is what you feel about yourself, not what you see in the mirror.' Click To Tweet
Try this out: Ask a male platonic friend what they think makes a woman beautiful.
His first few answers will be a reflection of inner beauty. Intellect, character, confidence, personality.
Not boobs and booty. So focus on the things that define your beauty.
You are smart. Intelligent. Kind. A mother. And a sexy one at that!
*BONUS* – If you need a daily boost in helping you regain your confidence and self-esteem, download my A-Z Positive Affirmations Guide. ENJOY!
Have you recently had a baby and no longer feel attractive?
Or have you found a way to get your sexy back?
Please share your experiences and suggestions with me in the comments section below.
I want to hear what you have to say!