Is The Fuss About Valentine’s Day Worth It?

Roses Are Red, Violets Are Blue, Valentine’s Is Coming, How Prepared Are You? To be honest, I don’t really care much for this holiday. My favourite flowers – Sunflowers are unavailable at this time of the year. I have never understood what the fuss about Valentine’s Day is all about.

Should courtship, romance or passion be forced for a single day in the whole year? 48-hours until the 14th and the fuss about Valentine’s Day increases every second.

People are out rushing trying to get gifts for their partners, trying to make sure to find the “right gift”.

Plans for dinner, dates and marriage proposals are underway. Me? I am laid-back and relaxed.

You see, Valentine’s Day can be celebrated every day. February 14th is only a day that was created for people to spend money. Well, not really true…but hats off to Hallmark for another great way to make money!

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Men are forced – okay not forced, let’s say “encouraged” to get their partners the nicest chocolates, flowers, to write a song or poem. Mostly because women LOVE to be made feel special and wanted, but we also love to make comparisons.

“What did he get you?”,  “Where did you go out to dinner?”  “Did he propose?”,  “How much did the ring cost?”  – Oh the nerve of some people! Isn’t that completely inappropriate? 🙂

What I don’t like is when things are taken to far.  You’ve seen the YouTube videos, read the comments on Facebook. Couples breaking up on Valentine’s day because something went awry during the planning and execution due to the stress of the fuss about Valentine’s Day. God help the guy who made reservations at a restaurant not up to standard.

 Single People – Don’t despair

For you, there’s no fuss about Valentine’s Day! Spend this day loving yourself. Indulge. Pamper yourself.

Tell no one that you’re spending Valentine’s Day alone. Or on  the other hand, do tell them. There’s nothing to be ashamed of.

Watch their faces and reactions. I saw this happen the other day at the counter in a store. Two people in front of me speaking. Girl A tells B she is spending Valentine’s Day alone. Girl B’s jaws drops!

She stares at A as is she just told them her she has been captured by aliens 3 years ago, lived on Mars and returned just because loves Planet Earth.

Girl B –  “Valentine’s Day? Alone? Are you crazy? Why would you do that?” I laughed to myself. Why not?  What’s so odd about that? Why not spend the day with the person you love most? YOU.

If you haven’t already, make yourself priority. Yes we have families, jobs, partners, KIDS, pets – I know, I get it, I understand. You cannot be there for everyone else if you can’t be there for you. Self-care should be at the top of your list. So you can function.
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 how and why was Valentine’s Day created?

it all began with a little festival the Romans held every year; a festival called Lupercalia, a fertility celebration. 

Women would put their names in an urn (yikes!)  then men would draw names from the urn and that woman would be their partner for a year. Easy peasy right? What a great way to find yourself a partner. Back then, there was no match.com, and as a consequence of the name drawing there is no fuss about Valentine’s Day. It is what it is. 

Pope Gelasius came along and proposed to make Saint Valentine the patron of the new celebration he created to replace the Festival of Lupercalia. 

 

'So, I love you because the entire universe conspired to help me find you. ― Paulo Coelho' Click To Tweet

 

Countries around the world celebrate Valentine’s Day in the following ways

Estonia: Instead of giving your partner a gift, you give gifts to your friends. The day is all about friendship.

Japan: It is all about the men! Women give chocolates to men and pamper them all day. Men – Thinking about moving to Japan?

Or better yet, how about Eritrea?  An order is now in place by the Eritrean government.  Its men are to marry no less than two wives or face imprisonment – allegedly!

China: Love seekers visit the matchmaker statue in a temple to find love.

Austria: My home. Like in so many other countries, we give our partner chocolates, go out to dinner, receive flowers and so on and so forth, bla bla bla.

 

 

 What are your plans for Valentine’s Day?

Redecorating your room to look like a love den?

Making a chocolate lava cake? Renting a romantic movie? (*roll eyes here*)

Sucks that this year the day falls on a Tuesday, so refrain from overdoing it with the wine.

OK – I realise I have criticized Valentine’s Day from the start of this post. It wasn’t my intention.

I had planned on writing about the different traditions, but this is what happens when you write and rant just a little. I think lovers should enjoy the days, singles too! Old and young. Everyone.

Celebrate or fuss about Valentine’s Day. Whichever works best for you is what you should do.  Most important is that since it is a special day, then make the day special. Savour the day and look for all the good things in it.

Celebrate love whenever you want. Better yet, all the time.  That’s what the hubby and I do,

Be it by yourself, with friends or alone, whichever way you plan on celebrating, have a great time.

In a relationship or not, do you celebrate Valentine’s Day? or have any traditions you follow?

Share them with me in the posts below – maybe without “too much information” 🙂

Sheri

 

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19 thoughts on “What Is All The Fuss About Valentine’s Day Anyway?

  1. I am not a fan of Valentine’s Day, mostly because of my husband, who’s birthday is on that day. Sounds pretty awful doesn’t it? Well, it is a pretty awful story, I am not going to share here. I love your post, though – blessings!

    Posted on February 15, 2017 at 17:14
    1. Ok Claudia, I hope all is fine on your end and wishing you positive energy and strength always. xoxox

      Posted on February 15, 2017 at 17:55
  2. I agree that it’s become commercialized .. although there’s still something fun about a day devoted to all things love. I thought the Japanese tradition was funny .. such a different view than here in the states!

    Posted on February 14, 2017 at 15:20
  3. Overrated and so commercialized its not even cute anymore…I mean would rather have 1 rose 12 times randomly though out the year than a dozen roses in a day just because they feel like they have to do it

    Posted on February 14, 2017 at 07:23
  4. It’s overrated and overly commercialized. I hate Valentine’s Day and it’s mostly because I work in an industry that thrives on that day. Well okay, I guess it’s good for us business-wise….but I hate working that day! lol

    Posted on February 13, 2017 at 21:23
  5. I definitely agree that V day is commercialized but its nice to treat yourself. I did and love the sound of Friendship day with Estonia x

    Posted on February 13, 2017 at 14:49
  6. I hope he brings me flowers, I hopes he hold my hand, give me all his hours, when he has the chance 😉

    Posted on February 13, 2017 at 14:47
  7. I totally agree. I will be celebrating alone and I am totally okay with it. Dont get me wrong, I do enjoy the spoils but I am also content with being single and loving myself. Till the i will enjoy my pampers, foot soak, a glass of wine and a good book or movie 🙂

    Posted on February 13, 2017 at 14:21
    1. I love your attitude towards this Tescha! Enjoy yourself and savour the moments of rest, peace and relaxation. In case you need an idea of how you can really relax, have a look at this post: http://www.abusybeeslife.com/experiencing-hygge/ Have a wonderful Valentine’s Day!

      Posted on February 14, 2017 at 04:56
  8. I do agree that Valentines Day shouldn’t be about what you get or where you go, it’s about being together x

    Posted on February 13, 2017 at 05:09
  9. This Valentine’s for me would be really boring because my husband is out of town so I’ll be at home only, looking after my little one.

    Posted on February 13, 2017 at 00:28
  10. I never really knew how Vday was created. Interesting read. Also, love how Vday is selebrated in Estonia. Such a brilliant concept 😀

    Posted on June 12, 2016 at 16:29
  11. Very interesting read and as an ex-pat who has lived overseas in many places, I like you am always fascinated how other countries celebrate the same festivals as I do! Karen

    Posted on June 5, 2016 at 09:24
  12. That’s so nice to hear your point of view regarding Vday. I’ve never been a lover of this day, but I guess it’s cute in a way. But I think there’s no need for a special day when you have found the one sharing your life right? Haha x

    Posted on June 3, 2016 at 04:40
  13. Our tradition; long distance phone calls lol. We have been together for 10years and always managed to be on exercise during February. Have yet to celebrate Valentine’s in the same town

    Posted on June 2, 2016 at 05:21
  14. My wife and I have never really done much for the holiday but her brother loves it. He runs a flower shop in Seattle and makes a months income that day each year. I think I might be more encouraged if it was done the way it was practiced in Roman times but Laurel might not approve.

    Posted on June 1, 2016 at 00:21
  15. We celebrate the other 364 days of the year. Valentine’s Day is usually crowded restaurants and overpriced flowers. You are spot on, it is a silly Hallmark holiday – do want makes YOU happy!

    Posted on May 31, 2016 at 20:52
  16. I like the background of how other cultures celebrate Valentine’s day, and also agree that love should be celebrated on every day of the year. I like to invite my husband to participate – plus I reciprocate (so it’s not about entitlement). This year, I received two boxes of chocolates and three bouquets. Not only was this to mark the occasion of Valentine’s day – but as a thank you for all my efforts to celebrate his birthday which was two weeks prior. I spoilt him rotten, but didn’t give to get. I gave as an expression of love. As a singleton, I spent additional time pampering myself – rather than indulge in resentment.

    Posted on February 18, 2016 at 21:26
    1. Your words are really inspiring Mimi. There is a lot to learn from you I think 🙂 I really enjoyed reading your posts and will continue to do so. I appreciate your comments. Thank U

      Posted on February 18, 2016 at 22:19