Is Low Self-Confidence Cramping Your Style?
Self-confidence is extremely important in every aspect of our lives. Yet so many people struggle with low self-confidence..
For some, the littlest things can them into a terrible cycle of low self-worth.
Upbringing, self-image, body language, the way we walk, talk, dress, interact, are all factors that tie into self-confidence.
Think back to when you were growing up, did you have emotional love, support, positive affirmations, encouragement or confidence building skills?
I hope you answered yes to this. If not, some or all of these reasons may be why you are lacking low self-confidence.
Recognizing the signs that indicate you have low self-confidence may either be glaring or hard to detect.
Here are five warning signs that may resonate with you.
1. You Are Sorry For Everything
You are always saying sorry. Be it your fault or not, you are sorry.
For many of us, the word “sorry” has become something we reactively utter. It might seem like a small and harmless habit to avoid drama, but realize this, it can actually lower your self-esteem and self-confidence.
Do not be so quick to apologize for things you didn’t do. your apologies will automatically tell others that you think you are responsible for the issue. Even if you aren’t.
I don’t make unnecessary apologies anymore. I have realised that it sends the message that I’d rather be agreeable than be honest.
Yes, being sorry is easier than dealing with conflict. It’s much less stressful. Being worthy and self-confident is much more rewarding.
Easy Fix: When you hear yourself apologizing, acknowledge that the apology is inappropriate and remind yourself that you did not do anything wrong. This will give you great peace of mind.
2. You Devalue Your Achievements And Deflect Praise
You receive a compliment, but don’t know how to accept it. Something great happens to you say you were blessed or in the right place at the right time.
The truth is you’ve done worked hard, and earned somebody’s respect and admiration. What do you say to that?
For a long time, when someone would tell me I looked nice or they loved my hair, thanked me for doing a great job at work, I would spend so much time analysing their words.
Thinking that it couldn’t possible to deserve positive feedback. Therefore anyone who paid me compliment must be either lying, confused or feeling sorry for me. I had to change my mindset in order to grow my self-confidence.
Easy Fix: When someone gives you a compliment, say “thank you.” Own it. Receiving congratulations for a job well done? Again, if you can’t bring yourself to say you are happy about it and you deserve it, say “Thanks, I appreciate that.” Be appreciative, a compliment is a gift.
3. You Are Indecisive
Not trusting yourself to make decisions and constantly questioning yourself will leave you indecisive. Most times there is no right or wrong choice to make.
I am pretty indecisive about what to wear and what to eat. Those are two points where I have to think over and over again, make a choice, change my mind, decide, change my mind again.
In regards to making more important decisions in life, more often than not, we’re indecisive because we’re afraid. At times, indecisiveness is a result of too much thinking. There comes a time when no matter how much you think about it, the decision is not going to get any easier.
Easy Fix: Make a list of the pros and cons for each of your options.The act of writing down every facet of the situation, good and bad, is very clarifying and your answer will become crystal clear.
4. You Shop To Feel Better About Yourself
Have a bunch of clothes you don’t intend to wear, wish you could wear, are not even your style? Yet you bought all these items when you were feeling down.
You find that you are always looking for that one item that will make you feel better about yourself. That item that will finally allow you to be accepted, or fit in. Sounds like you are trying to fill a void. Living for approval are killers of both joy and self-confidence.
Easy Fix: Stop comparing yourself to others. Find pleasure and acceptance within yourself. Material items should never be used to satisfy you or justify your existence.
5. You Are Avoiding The Real World
You are still afraid that people won’t like you, and their opinions matter so much that you rarely leave the house because it means meeting or dealing with people.
You sit behind the computer all day because it’s easier to be liked and accepted on social media than it is in person. You need to go out and get practice. Interact with family, friends, strangers even.
Easy Fix: Smile at someone just for the hell of it. Test it out, and then watch and see how your self-confidence gradually increases. Believe in you.
So how many of these lack of self-confidence signs do you see in yourself?
Always do what you believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize you for it. Be willing to take risks and go the extra mile to achieve better things.
How do you deal with low self-confidence? Have you mastered the art of high self-confidence? Share your experiences with me in the comments section below.