Do You Worry About What You Cannot Control?

If you are like most people (myself included), you probably spend a lot of time worrying more than you should. Like me, do you worry a lot about what you cannot control?

I worry about my son, my husband, my job,my home, friends, family – even what the weather will be like tomorrow. There are things I can control, and others that are completely out of my power.

Sometimes, it feels overwhelming which makes it hard to keep a clear mind. The answer here is being able to separate and differentiate the two.

 What can I control, and what do I have to let be?

Ask yourself these two questions:

– Are there any actions that I can take that will make any impact on these events or circumstances?

– Will worrying about what you cannot control change anything?

Worrying begins with a teeny tiny nagging thought. This thought grows quickly into a few more thoughts; in turn, those grow into bigger thoughts and you find your mind brewing and stewing, a volcano about to erupt in your head.

The chaos begins. You start to panic, anxiety sets in and you spend the next few hours worrying about what you cannot control. You are completely worked up and do not know what to do.

For me, this usually happens when I am either all alone, or in bed at night. I cannot sleep and my mind begins to wander. This is when my worry is at it’s best.

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A good way to sort out these thoughts is putting them down on paper. I love lists, so this is easy for me. Lists will help you analyse and divide your worries into two categories:

  1.  Concerns you can do something about
  2.  Concerns beyond your control

Plan and take action for the things you can control. For example, if you worry about the speech you have to make in front of 50 colleagues, commit some time to practice the speech in front of your partner, a friend, or even in front of the mirror.

Heck – record yourself on your smart phone. Do this a few times and it will become easier. Always plan an action that will help ease your worry or fear.

For the things you cannot control – let go. It will be hard at first, but making it a habit will ease a lot of headache and heartache.

Talk to someone. Write it down. Vent if you have to and let the worry out. Don’t waste valuable and precious time in your life worrying about what you cannot control.

'Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.” Leo Buscaglia' Click To Tweet


Goal setting and speaking positive affirmations to yourself are two things that can help you when you worry about what you cannot control. I have some freebies to help you available in my resource library. Take and look and see.

Do you worry too much about what you cannot control? Do you make lemons into lemonade?

Or are you like me and do a bit of both?

Share your thoughts,views and suggestions for coping with me below.

You never know who you might be helping.


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63 thoughts on “Why You Should Never Worry About What You Cannot Control

  1. Great article! So true that you need to plan for things you can do something about and let go of things you can’t. It is hard to let go, but naming what you are feeling emotionally is the first step in doing so. Then I usually bring my thoughts back to the present moment with something like focusing on my breathing. It really helps, I’ll be sharing this with my Facebook page.

    Posted on February 27, 2017 at 09:27
    1. I appreciate you sharing this post and for providing me with some more insight! πŸ™‚

      Posted on February 27, 2017 at 11:36
  2. I find myself worrying about any little thing and it’s gotten worse as I’ve gotten older, I’m trying to focus a lot on dealing with what I can but the idea of having no control is frightening.

    Posted on February 27, 2017 at 07:50
  3. My own philosophy in life is that … Fix it if you can, and let it go if you can’t.

    Posted on February 26, 2017 at 17:19
    1. And a great philosophy it is! πŸ™‚

      Posted on February 27, 2017 at 03:55
  4. Excellent post! It’s so true that worrying about things you cannot affect is just waste of time and your resources. Instead we should take actions if we are worried about something that more or less in our hands. This post was a good reminder about this. Thanks for sharing! πŸ™‚

    Posted on February 26, 2017 at 17:02
  5. In my mid twenties my mantra became: always focus on the positive things in life and be grateful with what you have.

    Posted on February 26, 2017 at 15:47
  6. I think we’ve all been here. It’s important to let go sometimes. Always good to be reminded though.

    Posted on February 26, 2017 at 15:16
  7. This is really fantastic post, i also kind of a person that have so much worried about my family, my husband and my parents and so on and so on. But by reading this it help to know on how to handle it. Or maybe talk with someone else as best friends it can helps.

    Posted on February 26, 2017 at 13:18
  8. I worry about so many things I can’t control and it drives me insane. Thanks so much for sharing this great post!


    Posted on February 26, 2017 at 13:14
  9. Such a great post, I’m a bit of both tbh sometimes I can’t help but worry but most of the time I’m pretty proactive and plan etc and when something goes wrong that is out of my control I like to look on the positive side!

    Posted on February 26, 2017 at 12:00
  10. Great post. I like to plan ahead, and I like to know what will come next. Sometimes I worry about the “what ifs.” I have issues with anxiety, so I’ve been working on not worrying and/or stressing too much about things that I cannot change. I’m trying to let things go and focus on what I can do something about. Thank you for the reminder. πŸ™‚

    Posted on February 20, 2017 at 02:42
  11. This was such a lovely read! I used to really worry about all the things I couldn’t control in my life. I would spend hours thinking about it and would stress me out. But recently, I have been working on that and now I can let actually let it go (for the most part). So I say that’s an improvement! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!


    Posted on December 23, 2016 at 02:09
  12. I’m a big worrier and I’ve definitely had to practice the art of letting go and focusing on what I can actually control. I can definitely relate to this post!

    Posted on December 23, 2016 at 00:57
  13. I do alittle bit of both, I worry sometimes but I also push myself to make lemonade when its needed (:

    Isaly Holland

    Posted on December 23, 2016 at 00:11
  14. It has taken me so so long to let go and stop worrying about what I cannot control. I moved from a natural disaster free area of the world to a city that is overdue for an enormous 9.0 mag earthquake which could hit us at any time and that took a lot of work to let go of and try to keep my anxiety down on but there’s no point worrying about what we cannot control. It only keeps us from living our lives happily!

    Posted on December 22, 2016 at 16:31
  15. same thought as my Dada always tell me – not to worry about things I can’t control. And sometimes he finds me silly because of it, hahaha. Now I’ve learn to be less uptight.

    Posted on December 22, 2016 at 02:51
  16. Hi Sheri! hope you’ll be happy to know that I really enjoyed this article and cited it here: πŸ™‚

    Posted on November 5, 2016 at 20:45
    1. Hi Lisa, I am glad you enjoyed the article and I very much appreciate you citing my link on your post. Loving the pictures on your site and will be reading more of your content. Have a wonderful Sunday and thanks again. Hugs from Vienna xoxox S.

      Posted on November 6, 2016 at 05:22
  17. This is a great advice. I am such a worrier. I often overanalyse things and can’t get them out of my head. I really like your advice regarding putting things down on paper.

    Posted on October 30, 2016 at 12:17
  18. Very informative! Be happy with what you can control, everyone situations are different and never compare your chapter one with someone chapter 10 is a nice principle to live with.

    Posted on October 28, 2016 at 04:40
  19. I spend too much time worrying about things I can’t control. Thank you for the reminder to stop worrying.

    Posted on September 29, 2016 at 18:41
  20. I used to be this anxious girl who would fret over anything and everything small. The thoughts of not being accepted by people, scared the hell out of me. But not any more. The more I started to like myself, I saw that, the more I get liked by others. I just had to reach the equilibrium. I’m happy now and what you have written is spot on.

    Posted on September 29, 2016 at 18:14
    1. You are absolutely right and I am glad that you are liking yourself more. It changes your outlook on everything in life!

      Posted on October 1, 2016 at 08:11
  21. You are 100% correct. This post actually inspired me a little. Thanks for this!

    Posted on September 29, 2016 at 08:47
  22. Sheri, this is right on time! Sometimes I worry over the things I can’t control way too much and for that reason I won’t even try doing something.
    Sometimes I also understand that there things I can’t control, they are just there. But some things still control me.

    Posted on July 3, 2016 at 11:43
    1. Hi Veronica, the less you worry, the easier things will fall into place, just like they were meant to. It has been hard for me to learn this lesson and I work on it daily.

      Posted on October 1, 2016 at 08:12
  23. This is so timely!! I have to remember to just let go and stop letting unnecessary things affect me. I can’t control life and to do so, only makes me feel more stressed!

    Posted on July 1, 2016 at 21:51
  24. I totally agree, there is no point in worrying over things beyond your control. What is to happen, will happen and you cannot influence it.

    Posted on July 1, 2016 at 01:38
  25. This is perfect! Just yesterday me and my long-time boyfriend is discussing something, and I couldn’t help but to worry of something. He told me to stop worrying of the situation that is not yet happening, as I am spoiling the fun coming in.. I realized he is right.. I should go with the flow and enjoy this moment!

    Posted on June 30, 2016 at 22:25
    1. Yes Blair! Savour the moments, enjoy life, and strive for happiness! πŸ™‚

      Posted on October 1, 2016 at 08:12
  26. So true. I used to be really good at not worrying, I even won awards about it in high school, believe it or not. But, sometime in my career-life I got stuck with bosses who couldn’t handle my carefree attitude. I was always serious about my job, always worked to my deadlines, but I tried not to sweat the small stuff. So, I started adapting a worried persona and it sucks. Now, instead of people always telling me that I’m always so calm, people tell me to calm down. I’m going to try to be more aware of that, though, and go back to me. Thanks!

    Posted on June 30, 2016 at 17:10
  27. Staying positive is a key to stop beinf overwhelmed by things you cannot control. It takes time, it takes stress management, but hell you can do it when you commit to. Of course, it’s true, and it can ruins your life. I was such a nerve record breaker, but after living abroad, I took everything the easy way. As every girl, I was the one expeting everything will go wrong, but staying positive helped me a lot. This, and meditation. x

    Posted on June 30, 2016 at 09:32
  28. These are great tips. I try to leave the uncontrollable alone, but then I end up micromanaging the things I can control. I do have to say though, writing it down does help me realize how fruitless my worries are and helps to calm me down.
    Great tips. thank you

    Posted on June 5, 2016 at 10:06
  29. I try not worry about things I can’t control. I have enough to focus on without worrying about stuff I can’t change.

    Posted on May 11, 2016 at 06:54
  30. I can totally relate to this post because I, too, worry more than I should. And my husband would tell me the same thing, there’s only so much you can control and to do my best to stay positive. πŸ™‚

    Posted on May 11, 2016 at 04:33
  31. This is great advice. It really helps put things into perspective. I have had to really work on this for myself.

    Posted on May 11, 2016 at 00:41
  32. I think I’m pretty good about not worrying about things I can not control. I do a lot of yoga and I just generally like being in a relaxed state of mind. So when I find that my mind is getting agitated I ask myself if it’s something I can do about and if the answer is ‘not’ then I just push it out of my mind. Life is too short to worry about what I can’t control.

    Posted on May 10, 2016 at 21:54
  33. I think many of us live life anxiety- but it may be masked as perfectionism, or efficiency, or busy. I think these are great tips to help people be more aware of how to handle worry.

    Posted on May 9, 2016 at 20:08
    1. I agree with you 100% Roxanne!

      Posted on May 9, 2016 at 22:20
  34. I think this is so hard for me. I worry MORE about the stuff I can’t control because I can’t control it. Vicious cycle!

    Posted on May 9, 2016 at 19:26
  35. What a great post! I definitely worry way too much about everything that I can’t control! This is an easy way to ease some stress. Thank you!

    Posted on May 9, 2016 at 16:18
  36. What a fantastic post. There are so many things I worry about, that I have no control over whatsoever. I really need to learn to let go.

    Posted on May 9, 2016 at 16:06
  37. I’ve gotten better, but I tend to worry. However, I don’t allow it to stop me from making decisions or taking risks.

    Posted on May 9, 2016 at 14:15
  38. Oh i love this post! It is so true what you say about how you can’t take control of everything but be prepared for what you can! Great post

    Posted on May 8, 2016 at 16:54
  39. I tend to worry a lot and I need to stop. I worry about things I can control and things I can’t. It just adds more stress on my head and I need to chill as my husband would say.

    Posted on May 8, 2016 at 10:07
  40. ohh yeah i definitely can worry too much about things without needing to! so sometimes i try to shift my focus from worrying about the actual things i have to do (which i can’t control) to the positive outcome/results, and that’s what keeps me motivated. such a great reminder though, great post πŸ™‚ #sharingthelove

    Posted on May 5, 2016 at 14:47
  41. Hi, I actually love what you said. I’m a mother, a wife, a college student and a daugter, and I do sometimes worry alot. I worry about everything, not sure why but I do. I’ve actually started this year with a thought about “making this year a better year for me inside and out. ” Some of that has to do with not letting things get to me so easily and worrying less. Worrying takes so much out of you and you actually spend more of your energy and time worrying about things, instead of just enjoying your life and being happy for who is in your life and what you have. I think that writing things down, venting, exercising, anything to take your mind off of it helps, but also realizing that there are some things in life that you can not control, and if you can not control it, then just let it go and see how it plays out. Great post by the way. Love your blog so far.

    Posted on April 27, 2016 at 17:13
  42. This is also what I need to learn. a lot of people are anxious about the things they can’t control. sometimes it’s best to acknowledge your limitations and hope for the best.

    Posted on April 20, 2016 at 04:25
  43. Great advise! …..Love this post

    Posted on April 19, 2016 at 18:10
  44. Hi Sheri,

    When we understand that we cannot control other people’s emotions and decisions, it is when we know when to let it go. In the past, I used to struggle too with so many worries about situations I couldn’t control. I realized that worrying too much never changes the outcome, it just adds some more stress to an already stressful situation. Great post, thank you!


    Posted on April 19, 2016 at 17:06
    1. Zaria you are 100% correct. It only adds worry and heartache to a situation you already do not want to be in and have no control over. It is hard to teach yourself not to worry, and I constantly have to talk myself out of doing it, but it does work and it is getting easier over time. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me πŸ™‚

      Posted on April 26, 2016 at 20:15
  45. I’m a worrier too. My mind worries away down one track or another. I wish I could turn off the worry faucet sometimes!

    Posted on April 19, 2016 at 05:13
  46. Worrying is such a bad habit of mine. I’m going to try your suggestions and hopefully it helps! Thank you!

    Posted on April 18, 2016 at 22:51
  47. Your advice to focus on what you can control sounds a lot like a major principle in Stephen Covey’s book & Habits of Highly Effective People. He calls it the “Circle of Influence” and the “Circle of Concern”. When we focus too much on the circle of concern, we waste our time and energy. When we focus on our circle of influence we see positive change.

    I think about this often! Although it’s hard to put into practice on a daily basis. Have you read it?

    Posted on April 18, 2016 at 21:11
    1. Hi Ivanna, No I haven’t read it, but it certainly sounds interesting and a book that I would love to read. I love learning new books/articles about positive thoughts, self affirmation and personal development so I will find this book. Thank you for your feedback and recommendation. πŸ™‚

      Posted on April 18, 2016 at 21:17
  48. How much time do we waste delving into the future and all it’s potential catastrophes with the energy we should be using to just enjoy the present moment? Thanks for this reminder!

    Posted on April 18, 2016 at 20:46
    1. You are right Rica, if only we would take more time to savour the moment, in the moment and not miss out on it by thinking of all the possible negatives that may or may not arise.

      Posted on April 18, 2016 at 21:18
  49. It’s so true, I try my best to do this, but I have my weak moments πŸ™ Great post x

    Posted on April 18, 2016 at 19:50