Do You Worry About What You Cannot Control?
If you are like most people (myself included), you probably spend a lot of time worrying more than you should. Like me, do you worry a lot about what you cannot control?
I worry about my son, my husband, my job,my home, friends, family – even what the weather will be like tomorrow. There are things I can control, and others that are completely out of my power.
Sometimes, it feels overwhelming which makes it hard to keep a clear mind. The answer here is being able to separate and differentiate the two.
What can I control, and what do I have to let be?
Ask yourself these two questions:
– Are there any actions that I can take that will make any impact on these events or circumstances?
– Will worrying about what you cannot control change anything?
Worrying begins with a teeny tiny nagging thought. This thought grows quickly into a few more thoughts; in turn, those grow into bigger thoughts and you find your mind brewing and stewing, a volcano about to erupt in your head.
The chaos begins. You start to panic, anxiety sets in and you spend the next few hours worrying about what you cannot control. You are completely worked up and do not know what to do.
For me, this usually happens when I am either all alone, or in bed at night. I cannot sleep and my mind begins to wander. This is when my worry is at it’s best.'One of the traits of positive people is that they don’t worry about things they can't control' Click To Tweet
CAN I HAVE A SOLUTION PLEASE?
A good way to sort out these thoughts is putting them down on paper. I love lists, so this is easy for me. Lists will help you analyse and divide your worries into two categories:
- Concerns you can do something about
- Concerns beyond your control
Plan and take action for the things you can control. For example, if you worry about the speech you have to make in front of 50 colleagues, commit some time to practice the speech in front of your partner, a friend, or even in front of the mirror.
Heck – record yourself on your smart phone. Do this a few times and it will become easier. Always plan an action that will help ease your worry or fear.
For the things you cannot control – let go. It will be hard at first, but making it a habit will ease a lot of headache and heartache.
Talk to someone. Write it down. Vent if you have to and let the worry out. Don’t waste valuable and precious time in your life worrying about what you cannot control.'Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.” Leo Buscaglia' Click To Tweet
Goal setting and speaking positive affirmations to yourself are two things that can help you when you worry about what you cannot control. I have some freebies to help you available in my resource library. Take and look and see.
Do you worry too much about what you cannot control? Do you make lemons into lemonade?
Or are you like me and do a bit of both?
Share your thoughts,views and suggestions for coping with me below.
You never know who you might be helping.