The Traits Of A Millennial Mom And Why You Should Love Her
I am a Millennial Mom. 100%. With all these words and phrases being thrown out there, let me first explain the term millennial mom.
Born between 1980 and the early 2000’s, she is strong, modern and independent.
Likely a college graduate, and in tune with technology. Ready to take over the world!
Often judged by generations before us, yet confident we can do it all, if only we put our mind to it.
A millennial mom is tough and resilient. Sound like you?
Neil Howe and William Strauss coined the term “millennial” in 1991.
The reason being that this generation came of age with the internet, the rise of technology, cell phones and more.
I have to mention that many people hate to being dubbed millennial.
Sure, I can understand that. Not everyone likes to be labeled or to be put in a box.
The older generations often view millennials as entitled. Oh well. Maybe we are.
A millennial moms know how to get things done. Life, motherhood, career. You name it; we got this hands down.
We kick a&*!!
What makes a millennial mom different to other moms?
Several things. We have more choices than ever before.
You can be a working mom, stay at home mom, a work at home mom, a business owner.
The options are endless.
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Once upon a time, a woman’s place was in the household.
That ship has sailed so let’s take a look at this list.
1. Social Media and Technology
I figure we’d start with this one as the internet and cell phones makes a millennial mom different to her mom and grandmother. Millennial moms are on social media daily.
We grew up into this age of technology, and most of us cannot live without the internet. That feeling of being ‘connected”.
Be it Twitter, Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram, YouTube and Pinterest. You name it and they are on at least three sites. For both work and personal use.
I spent less time on social media before I began my blog. Now, I am on social media daily promoting blog posts and sharing information.
I love connecting with people.
Prior to having my little one, I would take one or two pictures a week, if even that.
Since he was born, I have upgraded my iCloud storage twice!
I still need to download pictures once a month to create free space on my phone.
Can I count on my fingers and toes just how many of these pictures I have printed out? Yes. We love our technology.
While that’s all fine and good, it is important not to miss out on great moments by trying to find your phone to capture what is happening.
Social media can wait. Savour those moments, sit and experience them.
They will be embedded in your heart and memory forever.
Parenting can be a bit of a competition for millennial moms. Even though it shouldn’t be.
Three out of four moms say that it’s important to try to be the perfect mom. As we all know, perfection doesn’t exist. Why do we bother?
Millennial moms have defined perfection as being organized, educated, healthy, fit, well-dressed, a good cook, has a career and is focused on her family.
She must wear many hats, and this is where that feeling of competition sets in.
Ever see pictures on social media and wonder…..how come her house is always so clean and perfect?
Her kids look like adorable angels..why is mine constantly throwing tantrums?
You think to yourself – she is always well put together, and here I am in sweatpants and a t-shirt covered in toddler drool.
Let’s face it. No one posts pictures of their worst mommy moments on social media.
Healthy competition is a good thing. There is no point in feeling bad about your not-so-perfect parenting skills.
Just do your best for you and your child.
Praise other moms and show support. Which brings me to my next point.
3. Millennial Moms Empower Each Other
We all love our little ones right?
Our kids can be perfect angels sent from the heavens one minute, then test the patience of a saint the next.
You’ve seen those three-foot nothings throw tantrums at the grocery store, in Toys”R”Us, or at the playground right?
You smile because you know the feeling. There is a sense of compassion and empathy because you’ve been there.
We are all doing our best to make sure our kids are safe, healthy, happy, and have a wonderful life.
'A woman with a voice is, by definition, a strong woman.' —Melinda GatesClick To Tweet
4. Opinions Matter
Millennial moms value the opinions and recommendations from other moms.
Whether it is for a stroller, a car seat, or even baby wipes. They want to know from other moms who have tried and tested the products they are inquiring about.
If a product has crap reviews from other moms, you bet I am not buying it.
Amazon Prime has become a good friend of mine.
I read product reviews, and will not buy anything that is reviewed with less than four stars.
In addition, I ask other moms if they have bought the same product and what their opinions are.
Brands who don’t care about their digital reputation will not get a dime from me.
Obviously, I can’t do this for every single thing, but for products I would like to keep for a while, I definitely do my research.
For items like car seats and strollers, safety is the top priority for me. Next in line is quality.
Both of these go above value and price.
5. My Name Is Not Mommy
Of course, it is. It’s just not your birth name. LOL.
Whether or not you are a working mom, spending time with your child is important.
As a millennial mom, I still choose to maintain my identity.
We need the “me” time to relax, de-stress, do yoga, exercise, dance, or just take a bath and sleep.
Give ourselves permission to do things that make us happy without feeling guilty about it.
This doesn’t mean we love your kids any less.
It means we are cautious of not only our physical health but emotional well-being too.
Give yourself permission, you don’t need permission from anyone else. Doing so helps make us be better moms.
While you are enjoying the blessings of motherhood, don’t lose sight of yourself.
6. Independent Moms
We, millennial moms, appreciate help and support, but don’t necessarily go out seeking it.
Many millennial moms are giving birth to, or adopting children while they are single or unmarried.
They are not afraid to leave bad marriages, and abusive or toxic relationships.
Sure, it is so easy to get a divorce, and nowadays, there is less effort being put into “working things out” in a relationship.
Almost half of divorces happen in the first 10 years of marriage. The highest divorce rates have been among women and men aged 25-29.
Marriages that are built on fairy tale promises begin to unravel at the seams when the honeymoon phase is over.
It is great for a child to live in a healthy environment with both parents.
However, if the relationship is not working out, moms know they can still offer their child a happy home.
Independence allows moms to have a career, and control of their finances.
Women no longer feel they have to stay because they are not the breadwinner in the relationship.
If we want to let people take care of us, it’s because we choose to, not because we need to.
We can do whatever we set our minds to. Climb Mount Kilimanjaro? Bring it on!
Okay, that’s taking it too far. I’d rather take the lift than climb two flights of stairs!
7. Euros, Dollars, and Pounds.
Did you know that only about 30% of millennial moms work full-time?
I used to work full-time prior to having my son. Now I work 30 hours a week and it is the perfect balance for home and career.
Feels good to go to work and do my best. To be valued. Earn a salary.
Some moms choose to stay at home or open their own business. Whichever is best for your family is the right choice.
Maternity leave for me was for a year because I live in a wonderful country that allows parents paid parental leave for up to two years! Awesome right?
My little one builds his developmental and social skills in daycare, while I build my career at work.
At work, I am at work and focused solely on that.
When I am home, I’m home, where everything revolves around my baby love.
I get butterflies in my stomach when I walk out of the office knowing I am going to see him in a little bit.
So in love with my little guy, it’s crazy!
As the saying goes, absence makes the heart grow fonder. Even if it’s only for 8 hours.
8. A Millennial Mom Is Open-Minded
It’s 2017, so we know all about families with a mom and a dad, single parents, two moms, two dads, adopted kids, blended families, step parents, step children, interracial relationships etc. No big deal.
Modern families have a different “look” to what past generation families looked like.
Open-mindedness means forward thinking. No judgements.
It is important to have and show understanding, empathy, acceptance, honesty, and fairness.
Some of the many values we want to instil in our children.
9. We Are Stunning
A few days ago someone gave me a compliment. At least I think it was.
This person said, “You look so lovely Sheri. Always beautiful and well put together, it’s almost hard to believe you are a mom!” HA!
What are moms supposed to look like? Unwashed hair? Clothes that have never seen an iron? Fingernails badly chipped? Flip flops? Tore up?
Nope. Not me, not any millennial mom. Well, there are always some exceptions to the rule.
We don’t go out in flip flops, the store with our hair in rollers, unpolished toenails etc.
There’s nothing wrong with going to the store like that, it’s just not my thing.
I am almost always wearing a dress. I would say about 99% of the time. Business, casual, summer, winter.
Any season, any occasion.
Pretty sure I could wear a different dress every day for at least three months without repeating the same one twice.
Same goes for handbags! My kryptonite.
I like to dress well and look good. It builds my self-confidence.
Doesn’t always work 100% of the time and is quite unnecessary at home with a toddler.
Unless of course, you like changing clothes several times a day and love to spend all your free time doing laundry.
I am a pretty shy person. Even find it hard to accept compliments, but when I look good, I feel good.
My attitude and posture project #strongwoman.
10. Millennial Moms Can Be Anything They Want To Be
If you are reading this, and are not a millennial mom, you might be thinking, “well, I do all these things too.”
No doubt about that. Maybe, just maybe, you have a different way of doing things.
If you don’t have kids yet, I would still like to know what you think.
Please share your thoughts with me in the comments section below.