How Saying No Is The Best Way To Increase Emotional Growth
Say “No.” That’s it. End of post. That’s my advice. Saying no is the best way to keep yourself from unnecessary overwhelm and stress. We often say yes and agree to doing things without pausing to think about what we are getting ourselves into.
You need life advice? There you have it. Say no daily. That’s all there is to it. Watch your life change for the better! You will feel a sense of freedom and control. There is no reason to feel pressured into saying yes all the time.
I know what you are thinking – is she kidding me right now? The answer is No. Ha! See how easy it is? Yes? No!
No it’s not easy for many of us. This two letter word can be so hard to speak out sometimes. A word so simple yet so hard to use. Not being able to say no has made life harder, more complicated for so many people.
I can write for days and days about being a people pleaser. I used to be one.
My mind, my heart, my gut would say No,no,no! And what would my mouth say? “Yes, sure, of course.”
When I think back to those days – well not too far back, I only learned the power of saying “no” last year. It does not come easy, but saying no is the best thing because it leaves room for you to do so many other things you may have not otherwise had time for; simply because you made commitments without thinking about it first.
Why Do We Find It Hard To Say No?
Mainly because we have been taught to associate no with negativity. Rejection, fear of conflict, judgement, hurt, lack of loyalty. Also, it is easy to say YES! It comes out quicker. It is much harder to say NO.
Back when I was a people pleaser, I used to feel that saying no meant hurting the other person’s feelings. Disappointing them. They had come to me requesting help or a favour.
I would even say yes because I did not know how to communicate or explain my reason for saying no.
It was just easier to say yes. But you know what? I would regret it later and lacked the courage to go back on my word.
Not anymore. I say no and I do it with confidence. It is okay to say no.
You do not have to feel bad or guilty for doing so.
You can say do so in a polite manner that makes your boundaries clear. Others’ reactions and judgments belong to them, and not to you.
If Saying No Is The Best Thing – Where Do I start?
What can you do about it? Practice it. You can learn to say no gracefully.
Practice saying “no” in small, unimportant situations. When you feel tempted to buy something, or eat that extra piece of cake.
Stop and breathe before saying “yes,” to give yourself a little time to consider the commitment you are about to make as well as assessing your own needs and priorities.
If the situation allows, ask for time to think about your decision.
If you say yes this time, will that make things easier or harder for next time?
To be able to say no will help you live more authentically into who you are. Saying no is a skill that gets easier with practice.
Things You Should Be Aware Of
Potential Persuasion Techniques: Some people just don’t like to take no for an answer. And may use persuasion techniques or the “powers of persuasion” they believe they possess to to try and change your mind. Don’t fall for it.
Being Asked Multiple Times: If you say no to one thing, they may try to get you to agree to a smaller commitment or favor. If you want to say no with confidence and positively change your life by doing do, then you need to remember to be firm. Keep saying “No.”
Comparison Tactics: Comparing you to other people is another way often used to get people to change their no to a yes. You do not have to do something simply because someone else did.
3 Things To Do When Saying No
- Start with a compliment or gratitude.
- Ask for more time before committing.
- Thank and encourage the person.
Always remember that you do not need a reason to say “No.”
If you do not want to do something, then you don’t have to do it. Remind yourself that it is your choice, you life.
Saying no is the best thing you can do for your own peace of mind as well. You will not feel the need to constantly try to please people out of fear. Put yourself first and start building or maintaining your self worth.
You will find that you are not overwhelmed and overloaded with tasks and priorities of others simply because you said YES.
Be True to Yourself, Your Convictions, and Your Priorities.
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Have a great day and week!