What To Do When Dealing With A Bad Day And There’s No Joy In Sight
Ever have one of those days or even weeks where everything is going wrong? you are dealing with a bad day and it just seems gets worse from one moment to the next?
Where you just can’t get anything done the right way?
You spill coffee on your laptop, the car has a flat tire, your hair is frizzy. Your kids answer no to everything you say and ask.
You missed a meeting at work because you had it scheduled for the wrong day.
This is where victim playing may step in. “Oh, woe is me.” The universe just seems to be working against you.
Last Sunday was kind of like that for me. By late-afternoon I was done. Tired.
Why Am I Telling You This?
I almost made a complete stranger make my day worse.
A few days ago, I wrote a post about millennial moms and why I think we are great.
The post was filled with girl power and women empowerment. Barely 24 hours later, an older non- millennial mom left me a comment on the post.
She all millennial moms, myself included, knew nothing about life. In her words, “millennial moms are empty, hollow and vain!” Whoa!
Three words no one who knows me would ever use to describe me.
I was dealing with a bad day already, so I really didn’t need this at all.
At first, I laughed at the comment. This lady is so ridiculous! Well, she’s not a lady, but let’s pretend. 🙂
Then I read it over three or four more times. Trying to find something, anything I could have said that would piss someone off. There was nothing.
Great! Another thing to add to my “dealing with a bad day” list.
Every time I share a post, I am sharing ways to help you simplify your life.
Within that, I am also sharing with you a part of my life, my past, my story and my journey. It makes me vulnerable.
Open for judgement, shame, and attacks.
Her comments had everything to do with her and nothing to do with me.
Had this been two years ago, I would have been so upset, sad, and would have thought about deleting the post out fear of possible mean comments to come.
I enjoy having discussions on my posts. Different mindsets, perspectives and opinions. But downright meanness and bullying? No way.
Part of my self-growth journey and decluttering my life from anything toxic has been learning how to redirect my thoughts and feelings.
I had to stop myself to ask why I would let this person step into my inner bubble and affect how I feel?
As the saying goes, “nobody can drive you crazy, unless you hand them the keys.” Right? Right!
When you judge others, it is more about you and less about the person you are judging.
What Do You Do When You Are Dealing With A Bad Day
1. Embrace And Deal With It
Nothing is ever “wrong” with you. When a bad day gets worse, it is because you are going through a phase of contrast.
A lesson is about to be taught and learned.
It is important for you to go through this to learn the lesson sent your way.
2. See It As A Challenge, A Game
Catch the lemons being thrown at you and learn to make the best lemonade out of them.
Come out of each and any bad situation or experience a better you.
It will not be easy, but knowing that you will come out of any adversity a better person is more motivating than going through it entirely frustrated.
You aim here is to come out of the challenge a winner.
We can feel joy even while having a bad day, a bad week, or even a bad year! – Russell M. Nelson
3. Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
Don’t think “why is her life so perfect?” or “why does everything seem to go right for her?”
Comparison is the thief of joy!
It is so easy to get caught up in that. Comparison introduces a mindset of lack.
4. Listen To Your Inner Voice As Well As Your Body
Have you noticed your body giving you signs prior to dealing with a bad day?
Never noticed? Keep this in mind for next time.
Lack of sleep, loss of appetite, exhaustion, difficulty getting out of bed.
Your subconscious is using your body to try to alert you about something.
Learn to recognize the signs ahead of time.
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5 . Find Your Balance
When you are dealing with a bad day, it can be hard to find your balance.
You can juggle a lot of things, just not equally.
Choose one to three things you want to focus on.
Get those to the level you want, then choose another set of things and rise those to your goal or level.
You will find that fewer things will go wrong, and more will go right.
6. Get Rid Of Your Own Roadblocks
At times, when you feel everything is going wrong in your life, look within.
Reasons a bad day gets worse could be a result of your own doing.
How many roadblocks have you set in your own path?
What’s stopping you from TRULY going after what you want?
You tell yourself you can’t, you have negative self talk.
Why not turn that negative energy into something positive. In order to ensure great outcomes.
7 Create Daily Routines (that you’ll actually do)
LOL. I’m laughing because it’s so to create daily habits and routines.
To actually do them is a whole other story.
I love goal setting, which is why I am giving you this free and awesome goal setting guide.
Always ask yourself what are five reasons why I want to achieve this goal?
Some people set goals and cannot give you one reason why. Never set your goals based on expectations others have of you.
Your mind is the biggest part of achieving any goal.
There you go! Seven things you can do when you feel like everything is going wrong.
Not all days can be great, happy, or perfect.
Be present in everything you do. Adjust your old habits and watch things fall into place.
Whenever your bad day gets worse, find a way to transform your perspective so that obstacles feel like opportunities.
How do you deal with things when a bad day gets worse?
Do you just crawl under the covers all day int he hopes the problems will go away?
Or do you face the challenges of the day head on? Share with me in the comments section below.